182, Chris Stewart wrote about how she became reunited
with her daughter who she had to give up for adoption
as a baby. FAP brought them back together. This is the
daughter's story - editor).
was born in an unmarried mothers home at 'The Haven'
near Reading on 17th January 1966. At six weeks old
I was handed to my adoptive parents.
knew from an early age about my natural mother, however
my parents instilled into me that I was special. But
I always wondered who I looked like, and I asked more
questions in relation to my natural mother and her family.
My adoptive parents had a natural daughter when I was
4 years old - I loved her but was very jealous as she
looked so like her mother.
carried on and at the age of 14 we had a letter from
St. Marks Hospital explaining about Familial Adenomatous
Polyposis (FAP), but it was all double Dutch to me.
I went to the hospital with mom, the doctors explained
it all. but it was too much for me to take in. I was
told my natural mother knew nothing of this until a
few years after she had me and was desperate that I
was found, so I knew then that she loved me. I went
to pieces, became resentful of my parents, and pretended
to my friends that I had met my natural mother - there
was something missing in my life.
16 I became pregnant, and my parents said they would
disown me unless I had a termination - I was 4 months
when this happened. I left home after this to become
a nanny/mothers help, and tried to lead a normal life.
At the age of 25 I underwent a total colectomy with
ileo-anastomosis for FAP and so wished my natural mother
had been around.
A while later I met my future husband Tony. We both
wanted a family and I needed more information about
my natural family. In December 1998 I phoned Kay Neale
at the hospital's polyposis unit - she needed written
permission for my details to be passed over to Chris
Stewart, my natural mother. Three days later Kay had
contacted her, and that evening Chris phoned me. At
last I was speaking to my real mother - we had a wonderful
conversation, I felt I knew her, and my life seemed
Two weeks later Tony and I traveled from Devon to Reading
to meet Chris, her husband Jim, and my half brother
Andrew. I was terrified and excited all at the same
time. Although hoping it would work out for the best,
Chris had told me that if we didn't get on, I could
go back home at least knowing we had met. When we did
meet, we stared at each other and kept laughing. Tony
said he could see an older me! Chris was worried that
I would resent her for giving me away and passing FAP
on, but I would have never found her if I had not had
meeting Chris I have had two boys. I have a brilliant
relationship with my natural mother and her family,
as she does with my adoptive parents. My natural mother
may not have reared me but our mannerisms are the same,
we are so alike it's uncanny.
have a few polyps already in my duodenum, so if I ever
have to have a 'Whipples', or end up with an ileostomy,
my natural mother will be here for me, as she has both
of these operations in the last 3 years.
will be forever indebted to Kay at St. Marks Hospital
for finding me, and for eventually reuniting me with
my natural mother. May I also add that my adoptive parents
always prayed his would happen -
they think an awful lot of Chris and her family.
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